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Playing Time Expectations by Age Group

• Recreational Soccer:

In younger, recreational leagues, the primary focus is fun, learning, and inclusion. Most coaches aim to give all players equal playing time to foster enjoyment and skill development.

• Competitive Soccer (Ages 10+):

As kids transition into competitive leagues, playing time may become more performance-based. Coaches evaluate factors like skill, effort, teamwork, and game strategy when determining how much each player is on the field.

• Elite/High-Level Soccer (ECNL, MLS NEXT):

At the elite levels, playing time is highly competitive. Coaches prioritize team success and development for advanced players, which can result in some players getting significantly less time.

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Factors Influencing Playing Time

•Skill Level: Coaches assess players’ technical and tactical abilities and how they fit into the team’s strategy.

•Effort and Attitude: Consistent effort in practice and a positive attitude toward teammates can influence decisions.

•Team Needs: Coaches must balance the team’s overall needs, such as defensive stability or offensive power.

•Game Situations: During close matches, coaches might prioritize their strongest lineup.

•Developmental Goals: At younger ages, coaches may prioritize development over winning, leading to more balanced time on the field.

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Why Parents Should Stay Calm

•It’s Not Personal: Playing time decisions are rarely personal. Coaches focus on the team’s needs and the child’s development, not favoritism.

•Every Player’s Journey Is Different: Kids develop at different rates. Less playing time now doesn’t mean your child can’t succeed later.

•Respect the Coach’s Role: Coaches are tasked with balancing individual growth with team success—a challenging responsibility.

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When and How to Talk to the Coach

•Wait 24-48 Hours After a Game:

If you’re upset about playing time, wait a day or two to calm down and approach the situation objectively. Talking immediately after a game can lead to emotional, unproductive conversations.

•Use a Constructive Tone:

Frame your concerns positively. For example:

•Instead of: “Why isn’t my child playing?”

•Try: “What areas can my child improve on to earn more playing time?”

•Respect Boundaries:

Don’t confront a coach in public or during a game. Request a private meeting to discuss concerns.

•Listen to Feedback:

Be open to the coach’s perspective. They may highlight areas your child needs to work on that you hadn’t considered.

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How to Support Your Child

•Focus on Effort, Not Outcome:

Encourage your child to give their best effort rather than fixating on minutes played.

•Promote Resilience:

Explain that playing time is earned through hard work and that setbacks are part of growth.

•Celebrate Team Success:

Teach your child to value the team’s success over individual achievements.

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When to Consider a Change

If you feel that your child’s needs aren’t being met despite constructive conversations:

•Assess Developmental Fit:

Is the current team or league appropriate for your child’s skill level and goals?

•Explore Other Options:

If necessary, look for programs that align better with your child’s interests, whether they’re recreational or competitive.